Performance-Based Identity, what you need to know about it.

In this video, I talk about knowing the difference between an internal and external performance-based identity. You must know where your external driver came from so you can do all you can to avoid falling into the pitfalls it creates. It's also essential to know your internal driver because if you can sort that out, you can do amazing things.

We are living up to someone else's expectations, and it starts as we learn how to please our parents. It continues as we try to live up to the expectations of our teachers and coaches and the ever-increasing need to perform to the requirements of social media. Some can't let that performance-based identity go, living on a stage, hoping people like what they see, and we get the approval we need. Living in a performance-based identity perpetuates addictive behaviors, isolation, poor academic performance, and negative emotions. This longing to be something more robs us of the freedom to be who we truly are.

Being free from a performance-based identity will remove the constraints and pressure to be what you are not. An eagle does not try to be a crow, so why should we try to be the person others expect us to be?

A top-class athlete is called an outstanding athlete, which means he has failed to "fit in." Around the country, homes, schools, and athletic organizations are trying to get young people to conform to "the way things are done." I suggest we do things differently by getting more young people to stand out, buck the "follow me" culture of social media, and become brave enough to be.

When more people become bold enough to live with an internal performance-based identity instead of pleasing others' performance-based identity, the world will see more creativity and originality, and there will be less stress, anxiety, and depression.